Parenting with Purpose
WHAT'S SHIFTING?
Now we are at a maximum capacity of outdated systems, particularly the education system that was built to support a time when most students became factory workers. This authoritarian model creates more damage than good, teaching our children to submit to authority, that their opinions, perspectives, and voice doesn't matter, that they will be rewarded for "being good" (really rewarded for not thinking for themselves). This culture is cultivating a victim mentality. We need to reorient to parenting in a way that is reciprocal.
TRADITIONAL / COMPLIANCE BASED PARENTING:
The graduates of this system are unaware of the advocacy and responsibility they possess in creating life they want to live. The world is not happening to us but that we are co-creators of our lives. There is so much untapped potential in each of us, that the world desperately yearns for us to come online.
RECIPROCAL PARENTING:
Raising Wholeness and conscious parenting is one of a new model. It is a reciprocal feedback loop where the child is constantly informing the caregivers development. This model requires a deep level of presence, connection, and awareness; where the caregiver takes accountability for the way they role model all aspects of life for our children.
What if...
...we had a whole generation of children growing up in a whole world where they were honored for their uniqueness?
HOW DO WE NURTURE OUR FUTURE GENERATIONS TO THRIVE?
This is the question. This is the purpose. It is our intention to help liberate consciousness and our fullest potentials so that we may all step into our gifts and calling to serve humanity, through healing our own wounds, and nurturing our own development. By normalizing the healing process, being with the full spectrum of our emotions we show children the steps to be with whatever emerges in their life. We can't know what challenges will come their way and we can help them develop a healthy process for how they rise to those challenges.
PRINCIPLES OF RAISING WHOLENESS
Here are some of the foundational shifts we are witnessing and nourishing in Raising Wholeness.
PARENTING IS RECIPROCAL
Traditionally parenting is authoritarian or compliance based, which implies that the parent is here to teach the child. Raising Wholeness. means changing this perspective to seeing your child(ren) as your greatest teachers. Children are meant to trigger us and reflect all our unhealed aspects and places we can further develop. This requires our presence. And this is the greatest gift that they can give us.
PARENTING IS A PRACTICE
We need to normalize making "mistakes." Each "mistake is an opportunity to learn, that is the practice. Everyday is a new chance to step into conscious parenting. Parenting is meant to be a practice of presence, building more awareness, and doing our own inner work. It takes a deep level of self awareness, consciousness and presence.
WHOLE CHILD FOCUS
We are here to guide children in the full human experience, what does it mean to be a human? We need to make space for all emotions. All kids are sensitive, in fact, all humans are meant to be sensitive, and we get desensitized by not making space for our feelings. Again this needs to be modeled. How you create space for your emotions, will model a standard for your child.
ACCEPTING KIDS WHERE THEY ARE AT
We need to have a better understanding of the developmental capacities our children possess along their path so that we can meet them where they are at, and not expect things they are not capable of. We can focus on allowing our children to lead, focus on building authentic connection with them, and be present with them.
RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY
We all have conscious and unconscious aspects of our self that can show up in our life as unhealthy patterns, some of these patterns have been passed down through multiple generations. Until we heal generational wounds in us, we can't offer our children a new future. Healing our own wounds not only liberates our authentic self, gives us an embodied compassion. Without understanding the compassion, for our own wounds we can't extend it to our children.
MORE SELF AWARENESS
Children are not extensions of our own identity, with more self awareness of our projections we create space to honor the uniqueness of our child. This means awareness for how our traumas, generational traumas, and unhealed wounds are showing up either consciously or unconsciously. Furthermore, we need to make the time to heal these, whether that is through our own practice or with a therapist. We can not continue to project our wounds onto our children, because they will introject them and those wounds will become theirs.
PARENTING CAN CATALYZE OUR DEVELOPMENT
Our children are our greatest gift and our greatest teachers. When we open to this possibility, and use this, parenting can become one of the most transformational and catalyzing attributes to our development and evolution. Children are meant to trigger us, and this awareness can be celebrated, for illuminating all. the areas that we can further develop and heal. It takes a deep level of consciousness, self awareness, humility, and responsibility to choose this perspective.
